The holidays are the most magical time of the year, but they can also be stressful. There are so many events, obligations, and expectations at the holidays that can lead to stress and overwhelm. To help protect yourself during the holidays, set a few holiday boundaries. They will help to keep you at your healthiest, happiest version of yourself so you can show up the best for your people, too. If you spend a little time before the holidays setting these boundaries, it could also prevent future disagreements and problems. So, let’s take a look at a few holiday boundaries you can set.
Don’t forget that these lists are made with each Enneagram Type in mind. However, you may need to set some of the boundaries on several of these lists. These lists are meant to serve as a guide, not necessarily a definitive list of every boundary that each Type has to set.
Type 1: The Idealist
During the holidays, Type 1s may become stressed when plan don’t go perfectly or when they overextend themselves by saying “Yes” to too many requests or trying to do it all themselves. Type 1s also can benefit from scheduling times to rest, relax or play during the holidays so they can enter events feeling refreshed, instead of exhausted.
Type 2: The Giver
Type 2s are known for their giving and helping. But, they can also take this too far by struggling to say “No” to requests or caring for everyone else before they care for themselves. Set boundaries this year to help you not do more than you are comfortable with, so you feel appreciated, not used.
Type 3: The Performer
Type 3s often have trouble relaxing and enjoying the holidays because they still have so much to check off their to-do list. Take some time to unplug from your work and not always feeling like you need to prove to friends and family how much you are accomplishing.
Type 4: The Romantic
Type 4s may need time to process and work through their feelings during the holidays and that’s perfectly okay. Set boundaries for yourself so you can do that in a healthy and productive way.
Type 5: The Observer
As a Type 5, if you want to set boundaries with your friends or family, but also convey a sense of empathy while doing so, consider starting your conversation with the word “Unfortunately”. It will convey that it was a decision that was necessary, but also thoughtfully considered. Additionally, Type 5s can benefit from remembering before difficult family events that you are no long that child that has to please everyone with your actions. You can show up with adult needs that are just as important as anyone else’s needs.
Type 6: The Supporter
Type 6s love tradition, but may quickly feel disappointed when traditions are broken. However, considering how much has changed in the last 2 years with the pandemic, it’s a great time for them to remember that new traditions can be made and might even be more beautiful than the old ones.
Type 7: The Adventurer
Type 7s may go into the holidays on overdrive. They may benefit from boundaries that help to rein in any enthusiasm that turns into unhealthy overindulgence.
Type 8: The Protector
Type 8s tend to also approach the holidays with a lot of energy. Just remember to protect your energy and needs during this time instead of giving so much that you end up depleted.
Type 9: The Mediator
Type 9s may become stressed during the holidays if they are unable to communicate their needs. Remember to set boundaries to protect your needs and peace, instead of getting pressured into doing things you don’t want to do, just to avoid any conflict.